It was around 4 pm on Saturday. Having a ball in the mountains with family. A camping trip that was an enormous amount of fun. Who would have known that only one hour later our whole world would be flipped upside down?
In the blink of an eye, a mother, a wife, a sister, and a friend would have her world changed for what would seem to be like forever.
At 6 pm the hospital doors were thrown open. She was taken to a room where she laid there alone by herself, without her family. Thanks to the economical disaster we are facing no family was allowed in the room.
Scared out of her mind she was transferred to imaging and other areas of the hospital by herself. What was happening? Questions swirling around why she couldn’t think. Nothing made sense.
Is it a concussion? Could it be serious? Is it a hemorrhage? No answers. Her world was on mute as her head was clouded with confusion as to what was going on.
What seemed like hours later, a familiar face. A kind sweet face, that meant so much to her. Her husband entered the room. Not knowing what was happening, she was bloated with questions.
It could have happened to anyone. Why did it happen? No one will ever know. It was hard to comprehend the events leading up to the accident. To this day, it is still unknown.
With a swollen face, a gash on her forehead, and a Grade 4 Concussion, the world that she once knew as a nurse, a caretaker, and a wife would change. Was it for the better? Can change really allow you to become something that you never thought possible? You be the judge.
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The Process of Change
This was the beginning of a trial and error period. Attempting to go back to work, figuring out how to function as a human being, and clear the brain fog from your focus. Then came a lot of confusion, loss of balance, flat affect, severe headaches, and so on.
A few weeks later I felt ready to go back to work. With that came Intense hard No’s from a lot of sources. And even to the point where I was considering switching jobs.
Like really trying to apply for a job with a brain concussion. Needless to say, those were utter fails. You can read more about that here. Nearly two months went by. I lost my job, regained half of my brain space, and became more of a housewife than I had ever been in my life.
You see, no body ever plans to lose their job. No body ever plans to get hurt. It happens. And when it happens its so unexpected that you don’t even have time to blink. It changes you, without you even knowing.
In the hospital room at 6pm, positive change started to happen.
Embracing the Change
Change has never been liked by anybody. Maybe back in my 20’s when I was a “fly by the seat of my pants” type. But we all grow up at some point in life. Change when you are older and more established in life, is something that doesn’t come easy.
Change is not easy. For anyone. As I sit here writing this realizing all of the efforts I put into not wanting to change. Instead, I embraced the change that was set before me. We have one life to live. We are not in charge of our lives, it was given to us. It can be taken at any moment.
Whether you believe in that or not is simply up to you. With that we learn that we are given choices. Choices that reflect us as a person. We are given a path, whether we choose the right path, is up to us. So why do we fight so hard to resist change if it is something that is supposed to happen?
Changing for the Better
I can write all day about how the path I followed was laid out for me. How there are signs every where that point us in the right direction. But in that sense, you have to be willing to follow the path of least restriction.
You know, during this whole fiasco I was so caught up in the fact that things weren’t going to be the same. That it happened to me. To me of all people! Why oh why? I desperately wanted things to go back to normal and didn’t realize the fact that it was leading me straight into the path that I was supposed to be on. A positive adjustment for my life.
Change happens for many reasons. Changing for the better is something that you must embrace. I read a quote about change that seriously opened my eyes. It read “Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path.”
Growth comes with change. It can be messy, or uncomfortable but sometimes we need to be brave enough to outgrow the life that we have already built.
Build a Life that you Love
No one has their life planned out. It just happens. If you do, I applaud you because really we are all kind of fly by the seat of our pants people. Life happens. But is it really that difficult to create a positive attitude for change?
There is no explaining it, there are no answers and there is no way around it. When I was writing this I thought of a million different lists I could portray to you. Some that taught you how to embrace change, others that simply guided you through the process.
And then I realized that no one is the same. Not one person is the same as the next. So how can someone learn from a list of suggestions? We learn from experience. We each face different challenges in life. Our lives are completely drawn in different directions. So, if you have to learn one thing from change, know this:
- It’s ok to be scared. Being scared means you are about to do something really brave.
- You cannot grow if you stay stagnant where you are now.
- Trust the wait, embrace the uncertainty, enjoy the beauty of becoming.
- Old ways won’t open new doors
- Life on repeat is just that, life on repeat
- “You can’t go back to the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” C.S Lewis
The Importance of Change
Did you know that the average person makes 35,000 choices a day? Look at how many times in a day you have to figure things out. How many times you have to create a positive attitude for change. Do you go back to square one and go backward?
No. Why would you? If you were happy there then sure! But a door was opened for a reason. Accept the reason, without knowing and move on.
Find a new beginning. One that will make you happy. Use a few of those 35000 choices and make it about you. This could be the opportunity to start a new chapter in your life.
I read a quote note long ago that put my doubts into perspective. It read “Your current situation is giving you an opportunity to re-evaluate what you want.”
Can I get a high five for that one?!! You were put here for a reason, re-evaluate your life while you have this time. Reflect on what you want to be where you want to go with it and DO IT!